People describe me as a confident, strong, smart, athletic, adventurous young lady but this is only what people think I am. Truely, When I see myself, I have a lot of insecurities, I am only as smart as an average student, and only adventurous when my mom makes me go for photo shoots. If you asked anybody around my school who is the biggest athlete and nerd my name would probably come up. “Valerie Vega is the new class president.” “ Valerie Vega wins the dance team solo section competition entree award.” Please don’t get me started about all of the clubs I am in. From Mock Trial to Sign Language club, I am mostly some way involved in it. Oh, and did I mention all of my AP classes? Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for all of my opportunities but it is so stressful. There is only one reason I do all of this. I do it for my Mom because I want her to just be proud of me. My mom insists that I love dance and that I have to compete in every single competition. She expects me to win overall top winner of the day and first place overall in group and solo divisions. Even though I have a ton of rewards I still hate it!
We all have secrets right? Well mine is I wish I could be a normal teen. I wanna go to the weekend football games and not spend my whole weekend worrying about spirit week posters or going to my friends parties and not to a Speech and Debate meeting. I wish I could tell my mom how I truly feel.
It's Saturday morning and it’s what my mom calls Dance Dazzle Day. Today we are traveling to the bright and shining stage of New York to compete at Energy dance. Then I will perform a solo called “ You Can Do Anything”. I learned my solo for only an half an hour because on my two private practices I had Student Senate meetings and a Interact volunteer work that had to be done.
I love New York-- the shopping, the bright lights, the rush are all my favorite things, but Energy dance is not. I hate tights so so so so much and I wish I could just not wear them. One time I asked my mom if it was okay to not wear them for my one solo and she told me “Your legs won’t be as pretty.” I love makeup and hair styles but the competition makeup and hair styles are just way too much for me.
As I sat down at my vanity set and took out my bags, my glitter filled pink costume was haunting me. Mom got me my dazzled headpiece which now is covered in silver jewels. Maggie, my hairdresser and coach, put my brown hair in long curls and then I did my makeup with silver and light pink eyeshadow, dark brown eyeliner, black mascara, light shaded cover up, shiney highlight, and pink blush. My mom thought I looked great but I knew I wasn’t being my true self.
I was backstage waiting my turn to go on stage. When I turned around and my friend in my dance company was there
"Hey! Are you okay?” she said.
“ Hey Oliva, I am good!” “No, seriously I saw you in practice. You seem to always look sad and never really excited when you hit your turns well or when you got your front handspring down in Arco afew weeks ago. You don’t seem as passionate. I love that you are one of our teammates. You are such a great dancer and benefit to the team but if you don’t want to do this anymore then I would talk to your mom and Maggie. You have to do what makes you happy and if dance doesn’t do that for you, maybe you should do something you want to.”
The hardest part of hearing this is it made me realize the truth is Olivia is completely right, I have these feelings a lot. I want to limit the amount of clubs I do, for example maybe do speech and debate or Mock Trial, not both. I love dance but competing just makes it not fun, I want to dance from my heart and not be judged on what I look like and how good I am compared to others.
I turned to her and said “Thanks Olivia, this really helped and you honestly are completely right.”
I ran to a mirror and grabbed a makeup wipe out of my bag. I wiped it all off. I took out the half-pony with curls and and just let them settle on my shoulders. I grabbed a pair of sweats from my bag and a t-shirt and slipped it on.
“Up next is ‘You Can Be Anything!’ by contestant number 56.” announced the backstage crew.
I walked out and watched all the jaws drop. Every wrinkle popped out of my Mom’s face and her jaw dropped to the floor. I danced to all the beats with a smile on my face, I switched over the emotions with my face. I embraced my character and that character was me. I hit my turns with perfect straight legs and my flips with strong arms. Then it came time to hit my final position. I leaped across the stage as high as I can go, did a final turn and sat on the stage with my legs in a split.
I got a standing ovation from the whole room. I was truly proud of self and I actually enjoyed what I was doing with my life.
“Valerie Vega, what happened out there?” my mom asked me when I was heading to the dressing rooms.
”Mom I really need to tell you something. I don’t like competing, clubs, or activities if I can’t be myself. I hate how every second we have a club meeting or have be at a dance convention. I appreciate everything you do for me but I want to hang out with friends and go watch the football games. My friends and fun is really important to me because it shapes who I am, I love you mom and I hope you understand.” I looked her in her eyes and tried to read her expression.
“Val I love whoever you want to be. I thought you enjoyed this. I am so sorry that I put you through so much stress. I hope when we get home we can edit the schedule and see what you want it to be, it wouldn’t matter if you went out there and danced in your PJ’s, I still believe it was amazing because to me you are amazing. I love you Val.” she said.
We hugged and truly I finally feel that I am on the verge of being myself.
As I sat on the stage for rewards I really wanted to know if I even placed. They called fifth place and it wasn’t me. They called third it wasn't me.
The announcer said “First place is Valerie Vega!”
I jumped up and down. I felt as if this is the first time I won a competition. I have not been happy about winning in awhile, I walked with excitement for my speech and trophy. I motioned Oliva to come up with me.
“Hello everybody! I would like to thank my instructor Maggie Miller and my Mom, Victoria Vega, for always supporting me. Today I want to especially thank my friend Oliva for helping me find my true self. With you I wouldn’t have been able to express my true self and get my feelings out. Thank you and goodnight!” I said.
Everybody clapped and I walked off the stage to my coach and mom. I was excited to finally have chance to be myself.
When I walked back to the dressing room, everybody congulated me. They were proud and impressed. I know that even if I was just one little girl in the big,huge ,apple, that I taught a very important lesson. I hope other people in the audience who are going through same issue that I was build up the courage to step away from it and be herself.
I drove away from the competition, watching the pink and orange sunset just thinking about endless possibilities I can have. I now can play with my fluffy brown dog Roger, and go to Sara’s party on Monday. I can actually have a day of laying around watching Netflix. Goodbye stress, hello world!!