My first memory of cooking is squishing creamy dough into baking tins shiny with grease, painting on a glittery coat of sweet cinnamon with a basting brush fit only for masterpieces. My father and I made these delicate sticky buns often, from a favorite cookbook, at a time that I was so small my nose could barely poke over our countertops, peeking my wide eyes up at my father. I easily recall his blue pinstriped apron speckled with flour and the funny white hat he always pulled on over his messy brown hair.
Over a decade later, he still wears that cap, though the locks beneath match the flour on his apron more closely than the cinnamon I sprinkle. Our recipes are now slightly more refined than the beloved sticky buns: sizzling pineapple stir fry, colorful margherita pizza, bright yellow polenta blanketed with fresh mozzarella and vibrant vegetables. It's difficult for our vegetarian family to stray from pasta, yet every bowl springs a fountain of noodle youth, different ingredients in each dish. Our ancient recipe box overflowing with rows of chicken-scratch notecards and magazine clippings must be infinite. However, my mother is never hesitant to pass a recipe on; “It’s sharing, not hoarding, that ensures survival [of recipes].”
Often sous-chef to my father, ingredient prep is not always fun and games. The mezzaluna is a familiar tool; I’m used to the monotonous rocking of the knife back and forth until thick thyme stems transform into specks of forestlike green. The lackluster tasks are enjoyable with my father’s words of wisdom. One often declared within the kitchen, “There’s just two things I need: good food, and good conversation.” I know from household experience that days with both are the best type.
Growing up with the privilege of my kitchen being smoggy with swirling aromas (or perhaps it is simply the smoke that occasionally sets off our alarm), I reflect on the fact that not all families experience this. Visitors rave about the dinners served in my home, not accustomed to the meals brought together so lovingly. Food is one of the many labors of love that knots my family together; what better motivation than a good meal for the half-dozen of us to attend family dinner? Something printed in each line of a recipe book is an ingredient many don’t read: somewhere between the miles of kale waiting to be washed, and the accidental burns and spills, a bond is formed, laughs are shared, and love is melted into every pot and pan. Pick up a recipe, and begin to love cooking.